The theory of vector marriages. Year of birth and vector couples

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VECTOR COMMANDMENTS

I don’t want to call a vector union between a man and a woman a marriage. Marriage is something stable, natural, balanced, something that can be built, predicted, explained, in the end. But all of the above has nothing to do with the vector union. This, now a whirlwind, now a calm, now a fire-breathing volcano, now a rotting swamp, does not in any way fall under the concept of marriage. Rather, a vector union should be called not a marriage, but a riddle, Pandora's box, a breakthrough into the fourth dimension, or something else like that. Therefore, it is impossible to come up with any commandments for vector marriage. And the only real commandment could be the formula about the absence of any commandments. Therefore, all the commandments that will be set forth are very conditional and relative.

Well, for now, let’s announce, as they say, the entire list of characters. Rat - Monkey, Monkey - Snake, Snake - Goat, Goat - Tiger, Tiger - Bull, Bull - Dog, Dog - Rooster, Rooster - Cat, Cat - Dragon, Dragon - Boar, Boar - Horse, Horse - Rat. At the same time, for the first time, we have to stipulate in advance that in the listed couples the position of the spouses is not equivalent. In each pair listed, the servant is in first place, the master in second.

a) For some, vector marriage is obvious evidence of divine intervention in our lives, for others it is an equally obvious consequence of the devil’s machinations. Hence the main commandment, when entering into a vector marriage, do not expect to remain in the shadows. A vector union is a guarantee of, if not adventure, then at least anomalousness. Expect that aliens will visit you, a poltergeist will settle under your bed, drums, little devils, angels will appear everywhere, everything will mix up in the house and will spin under your feet. In a word, your life, already not simple and clear, will become completely beyond the control of reason. You can, out of fear, rush through churches, driving out an evil spirit, or, on the contrary, illuminating a strange union with the blessing of the church. Neither one nor the other changes anything; the church has no power over the vector ring.

b) You can get into a vector marriage out of great love, you can get into it completely by accident, you can pretend that the vector marriage didn’t mean anything to you, but you will never be able to prove that the vector marriage didn’t turn you inside out. This is a scalpel, God or hell, but it is the sharpest surgical instrument, it is not used for trifles. So don’t worry about worry, even if you manage to get out of the vector marriage alive and unharmed, the scar will remain for life. It is possible that vector marriage is some kind of vaccination, or maybe even initiation into a certain order of knights who have gone through vector purgatory. But in any case, vector marriage is the gate, the eye of the needle, through which a person becomes a Human.

c) In this sense, try to perceive the vector union as a test, as a dilemma. Moreover, not a single answer is obviously correct or incorrect. This is not a guessing game or a quiz. You say to the vector union - Yes! And go right, or say - No! And go left. And since then there is no turning back for you. A vector scalpel cuts out half of your soul and throws it away forever. And no one will say which half was better and more necessary. The choice is not between darkness and light, not between good and evil, which would be very comforting for us, but rather between order and chaos, between love and morality, that is, between things that everyone would like to preserve in their entirety. But you can’t, because you always have to choose. One chose love and forever lost the right to the path to truth. Another chose the truth, and since then, instead of a soul, he has a black hole, unable to love himself, unable to sympathize with the love of others.

d) The number of vector scenarios is unlimited. One of the main entertainments of humanity is a collection of vector essays. And yet, first you should understand the main thing about your vector marriage: are you growing together, or, on the contrary, are you rejecting each other. We are talking not so much about mental interactions as about purely physiological reactions. Any drug analogies are possible: smoking, drinking alcohol, etc. If you feel sick from cigarettes, then no matter how strong your addiction to nicotine is, you need to pull yourself together and quit smoking. If you realize that vodka is killing you, gather your strength and kill vodka first. If smoking and drinking leave you with the opportunity to live a comfortable life, then live to your health. Not every vector marriage needs to be destroyed.

d) But if you still managed to get out of a vector marriage, then rejoice immensely. You have reached a new level, God kissed you. Now you simply have to make a fantastic career, especially if you were a servant in a broken vector marriage. Theory always congratulates people who have left a vector marriage. If the collapse of any other marriage is always a recognition of weakness and helplessness, then the collapse of a vector marriage is always a recognition of a person’s strength, the power of his spirit. Don’t rush to destroy a vector marriage, but once you decide, know that a reward awaits you. However, also remember that great rewards are not paid for trifles. Destruction of a vector union is the hardest, most unique work. Breaking up a vector marriage is just as difficult as maintaining a balanced marriage.

f) Vector interaction is directly proportional to the time of communication and the density of contact, and therefore always try to manage your condition through time management. Learn to manage time, learn to control vector. Learn to control the vector and become the manager of life. If your vector union follows the principle of “24 hours together” and you are still alive, then spit on everything and don’t read any commandments, everything is fine with you, you have long grown together, you have one body, one soul and two brains in synchronous mode, you don’t need anyone and no one is interesting.

It’s a completely different matter if every minute spent together changes your mood, if you look like a kettle forgotten on a burning stove, heat up, boil and, finally, burn. Everything is more complicated here - vector allergies are treated with harsh methods.

g) To scare people with vector marriage - or not to scare, that is the question. On the one hand, you won’t be intimidated, but you will end up withholding strategic information. Still, a vector marriage is cooler than the Bermuda Triangle - the immune system breaks down, the roof goes crazy, and so on. On the other hand, if you intimidate a person, and the vector marriage turns out to be happy, calm and peaceful, who will you find yourself after that? Therefore, the main commandment, which follows from the unpredictability of a vector marriage, is not to try to predict how it will all end and what scenario it will follow. Nothing is known in advance.

h) Do not look for a golden mean in a vector marriage. He's either too good or too bad. Everything average, ordinary, universal for a vector marriage is impossible. Either delight or despair. Hence the main tactical commandment of the vector alliance - go to the end in the chosen direction. Either together until the end, or apart until the end. But running back and forth in a vector marriage is not advisable. Nothing will settle down, will not be tolerated and will not fall in love, will not settle down and will not settle down. If you decide to leave, go away. I decided to stay - stay. This commandment is especially important precisely because in a vector union the will is weakened many times over and may completely disappear. Any exaggerated assessment is only beneficial, because it helps to make a clear decision whether to stay or leave.

i) For those who like to look for a higher meaning in everything, it is very important to understand why a vector marriage exists at all, and why it happened to a specific person. According to the latest ideas, vector interaction is omnipresent and inevitable, whether the vector is large or small, karmic years or karmic months. And everywhere vector influences help a person to interrupt the ordinary course of life and reach a new level. Yes, through stress, through humiliation, sometimes catastrophe... But there is apparently no other way to deprive a person of his sheepish self-confidence, stubbornness and stupidity. Thus, vector tests are sent to someone from whom a sharp change in circumstances is expected, who has already outgrown his old pants, but does not dare to change them. This is where the vector union appears, that very nightmare that explodes the old established life and at the same time serves as a control test for passage to a new level.

j) Thus, vector marriage also has its own achievements, its own register of exploits. The vector marriage ruined some, but exalted others, taking them to a completely transcendental level, placed others in the ring of time, forcing them to move in a circle, and pulled others out of the ring and placed them on the axis of ultra-fast progress. So be proud. Whatever happens to you in a vector marriage, be proud. The universe itself has challenged you. If you lost, it means you were the main figure interfering with higher powers, and therefore do not be afraid to ask for good compensation for your defeat. If you win, then don’t complain about troubles, bad luck, lack of money, unpopularity and other details. Be proud of the victory itself.

k) If a spiritual marriage allows spouses to spit on public opinion, then a vector marriage allows everything in the world. In a destructive scenario, everything is allowed, because there are no forces. In the creative scenario, everything is allowed because the fused vector spouses are no longer people, they are some kind of new being, with a new physiology, a new psychology, a new morality, or rather with an absent morality, because the very concept of morality is purely human. All the meanness of an equal marriage, all the arrogance and arrogance of a spiritual marriage are trifles compared to what a successful vector union allows itself. Truly there is no limit. A person who has surrendered to the mercy of the vector can afford everything.

m) Describing the details of so-called equilibrium marriages, we were forced to recognize the symmetry in the position of the spouses. Emphasizing the inequality of the sexes in romantic and patriarchal marriages does not deprive them of balance. Each remains a dominant figure in his element. A vector union is a completely different matter. There is a master, there is a servant. The position of the spouses is initially different. The master can and must become a master, the servant must and can become a blind executor of the master's will. Alas, in real life everything is not so simple, and often it is the offended servant who strives for power, and the relaxed master who does not want to command. Still, let everyone play their role. If you have a chance to command, pull yourself together and command, if you have a chance to serve, serve and don’t rock the boat. There are even certain benefits to being a servant. The servant is a suffering figure, morally purified. The owner is an impudent, boorish, ungrateful and indifferent monster.

m) Spiritual marriage moves a person away from his native sign, but does it slowly and for a long time. In addition, in a spiritual marriage, the sign shift occurs in a very precisely defined direction, according to the normal logic of the elements. The vector union literally hacks all defense systems, rips open all protective shells and throws two completely different people into the most powerful embrace. As a result of this nightmare surgery, the shift of signs occurs quickly, chaotically, roughly. Finally, the shift is going in a direction that cannot be explained by ordinary logic. Moreover, if only one structure was crushed in the spiritual shift, then everything is here at once. The loss of a sign means the loss of all the most precise settings. Continuing the computer analogy, we can say that all programs freeze, a person begins to glitch, sometimes very strongly.

o) A vector defect is a situation in which rotation always goes in one direction; there is practically no concept of reverse motion here, just as there is no concept of trial and error. Everything is always here once and for all. Therefore, counseling such a marriage is almost impossible. There is almost no clear and obviously useful advice. Today, a consultation is an attempt to open their eyes, to help spouses see themselves from the outside, and also to help the spouses themselves find the main decision - to continue the vector experiment, or to stop. If the decision is made (by at least one of the spouses), then the consultant helps in full force, because the technique of leaving a marriage is known, the technique of preserving a vector marriage is also clear.

p) So: you decided to leave the vector union. Learn to manage time. Reduce communication time. If there is a physiological addiction, then try to replace it with another addiction, it doesn’t have to be about another person, it can be anything - alcohol, sports, travel, a car, and so on... Finally, you feel that your spirit has become stronger, in the trembling in your knees is not so bad... Run, run as hard as you can, and if you have no strength, then crawl, crawl until you lose consciousness. And when you crawl away, then freeze and hide, not responding to cries for help, or messages of death, or screams, or crying. Plug your ears, close your eyes and take as long as you can. But even when you have already won and confidently broken the vector alliance, continue to be careful and do not lose your vigilance. All this applies to a particularly large extent to departing servants.

p) If you decide to stay, then realize that this is forever. Imbue yourself with fatalism, outline the range of issues that you refuse to discuss and refuse to think about. From now on you are deprived of freedom of choice, you are a lifelong slave to the decision you made. Don't complain, don't grumble, don't seek consolation. Relax your muscles, ignore everything, live as you live. You will be fine, everything will be fine.

And now a list of horoscopes of people who feel even better in a vector marriage than in other marriages, because a vector marriage was intended for them.

Rooster - Aquarius, Rooster - Cancer, Dog - Capricorn, Dog - Taurus, Pig - Leo, Pig - Libra, Rat - Libra, Rat - Sagittarius, Ox - Aquarius, Ox - Gemini, Tiger-Taurus, Tiger-Scorpio, Cat - Capricorn, Cat - Leo, Dragon - Pisces, Dragon - Cancer, Snake - Scorpio, Snake - Sagittarius, Horse - Pisces, Horse - Aries, Goat - Gemini, Goat - Virgo, Monkey - Aries, Monkey - Virgo.

The meaning of a structural horoscope is that it does not simply describe the signs, but divides these signs into structural components, describing them through elementary qualities. Similarly, the interaction of signs is considered not as a collision of alien sign bodies, but as a process of searching for unity and affinity at the level of elementary components.

The above applies to all the previously described structures - psychological, social, ideological, energetic, as well as the structure of fate. However, there is one pattern in the structural horoscope that works not with divided signs, but with whole signs. This pattern, unlike all others, does not have a clear symmetry. Well, most importantly, such a pattern brings into the world of signs not order, as required by law, but chaos. The name for this amazing phenomenon is a vector ring.

Paradoxically, the vector ring was discovered earlier than the so-called straight (symmetrical) structures, and its ugliness was not so noticeable against the background of its slender counterparts. If it were not for the enormous energy effect of vector relationships, then no one would have thought of building this strange and unlike anything else chain of signs.

The reality is that for each sign we were able to find two cases where the interaction resembles not human communication, but some kind of explosion of natural elements. Moreover, a sign always has one master sign and one servant sign. It is easy to imagine that through such interactions a closed chain, that is, a ring, is formed. Since in each link of this ring the relations are nonequilibrium, that is, vector, the ring itself becomes vector.

The vector ring is a fairy tale, a myth, a song, it is so mystical and unthinkable, but at the same time it is the roughest and cruelest reality, from which one cannot shield ourselves from talking about disbelief in horoscopes. The vector ring is the pride of the structural horoscope and in many ways its trademark, but at the same time it is also the grief of its discoverers, because we have to constantly consult many people from vector marriages, who, in fact, have nothing to help them except to confirm the reality of the miracles happening to them. The situation with children of vector marriages is especially offensive and difficult to correct.

So, the vector ring: Tiger - Goat - Snake - Monkey - Rat - Horse - Boar - Dragon - Cat - Rooster - Dog - Ox - Tiger... The ring is closed. Any of the signs we are interested in has two neighbors along the chain. The neighbor on the left is the master sign, and the neighbor on the right is the servant sign. There is no point in trying to find a pattern in the arrangement of signs; it, of course, exists; it is determined using rather complex mathematics, but not arithmetic. The easiest way to remember a vector ring is with the help of zoological analogies - say, a cat ate a bird, and a tiger ate a goat, and so on. By the way, in the world of real animals, vector laws operate just as inevitably as in the world of people.

If we try to roughly explain, using generally accepted concepts, what happens when vector neighbors come into contact, it turns out that vector relationships are like a master key that opens a person’s protective field. Thus, in any other case, you need to find the keys for a long time or try to persuade him personally to give you the keys to his heart, his soul, his body, etc. Vector contact is like a break-in, a hole in the wall, and sometimes complete destruction roof over your head.

In the current situation (after opening the human defense systems), it would seem that there are many advantages - quickly established contact, a complete feeling of comfort, the simultaneous possibility of the hottest passion, spiritual mutual understanding, and intellectual coordination. However, the summer of love euphoria soon ends, and the winter of real married life begins. This is where it turns out that someone’s immune system is destroyed, someone’s nerves are completely unbalanced, someone has become overly aggressive, and someone has switched off from life and wanders around as if hypnotized.

The general formulation states that the servant in a vector marriage degrades, and the master loses his conscience (becomes rude). In fact, there are many options - the servant can become hysterical, eccentric, while the owner will be forced to follow such a servant as a nanny, etc.

In general, vector marriages are extremely diverse in their scenarios. The most common scenario is when spouses cannot stay apart for a long time, and as soon as they get together, conflicts begin. There are cases when spouses grow together, like Siamese twins, wandering everywhere, holding hands... It happens that a vector marriage deafens people, and they switch off, not perceiving the world around them, plunging into themselves. The only immutable truth is that, unlike all other marriages, the vector scenario cannot be predicted and cannot be guaranteed. In fact, you never know how people whose house has fallen apart will behave - they will leave, start building a new one, continue living in the ruins, move in with their neighbors...

Consulting vector marriages is very difficult, because it is more a matter of conscience than knowledge. A person who has fallen into a vector trap must decide for himself what is more important to him - the integrity of his personality, the preservation of his own face, or those rather dubious pleasures and delights that the deep penetration of spouses into each other gives. The job of those who discovered the vector ring is to simply explain their situation to people, without giving any recipes.

Relatives, parents, and friends can play a big role in the development of a vector marriage. The fact is that the spouses themselves, once in a vector union, do not notice their transformations, but from the outside, as a rule, it is clear that something wrong is going on with the person.

The whole world sometimes has to persuade young lovers not to enter into a vector marriage. It would seem, why, isn’t a person the master of his life? Can't he dispose of his health, his nerves as he pleases? Everything is true, but there is one “but”. If the vector marriage was limited to itself, then everything would be fine. However, children are born in marriage. At the same time, children, as already mentioned, copy not their father or mother, but their marriage, that is, they copy the very whirlwind that gives rise to the destroyed personalities of their parents. And the saddest and most dangerous thing is that children copy the vector confusion even when the spouses are outwardly doing well (the author has often observed such cases - the parents are outwardly very calm, ordinary people, and the children are extremely unbalanced, on the verge of normality) .

However, it is necessary to remember that vector children, just like vector marriages, are uncontrollable and unpredictable; perhaps some children of vector marriages will not be overexcited, but, on the contrary, overpassive. In any case, you need to know that any child of a vector marriage requires tenfold attention and a completely special approach. And at least in no case should such a child be to blame for his dissimilarity with the children of normal marriages.

In this seemingly deadlock situation, there is one extremely important point. Vector marriages, depriving spouses of a protective barrier, sharpen their perception of the world, making them more sensitive and impressionable. Such newly acquired qualities can be used in some professions that require an unbiased outlook on life. We are mainly talking about acting, although it is possible to replace natural talent with a keen perception of the world in poetry, composing music, etc.

The situation is similar with children of vector marriages. Over-excitability and over-vulnerability may well turn into extraordinary talent. Talented people often have a restless, mobile character. Let's not forget that, perhaps, the brightest genius of our culture, Alexander Sergeevich Pushkin, was born in a vector family. With his biography, he brilliantly confirms both extremes of vectorial influence - extreme imbalance and absolute genius.

Be that as it may, the problem has been identified, a serious problem that requires careful study, collection of statistics and its discussion. In any case, it will not be difficult for a kindergarten teacher or school teacher to find out which of the children in their care has parents in a vector marriage. As for the vector spouses themselves, the main advice to them both about marriage and about children is not to panic and calmly figure everything out; maybe the devil is not as terrible as he is painted.

Now directly about marriages.

Tiger - Goat

The Tiger’s bewitching smile, motionless gaze, only he is able to stop the Goat endlessly galloping through life.

The Tiger is a closed sign, and the Goat is an orthodox one, however, the Goat is quite strongly shifted towards closedness, so everything that happens in this family will be hidden both from prying eyes and from close people.

Other structures have nothing in common: the persistent cosmic optimism of the Tiger against the incredible changes of the increasingly dramatic Goat, the dreaminess of the Tiger against the sensitivity of the Goat, and, finally, the eternal quest of the Goat, crashing against the rock of the tiger’s fatalism, his faith in destiny.

If the Tiger is the husband, then you have the option of a relatively calm vector marriage, because the super-powerful will of the husband is successfully layered on the although melting, but still strong will of the wife. Therefore, passions can be restrained for the time being. However, let's not forget that passions that have not found a way out tend to accumulate. Accumulating vector passions is very dangerous.

If the master is married to a wife (Tiger), and the servant, respectively, is a husband (Goat), then the result is a marriage of two rather combative and sharp signs, in which a violent manifestation of passions is likely. However, every cloud has a silver lining. Having discharged themselves, the spouses can calm down for a while.

Goat - Snake

The thirst for life, the thirst for fresh sensations, the mighty demon of anxiety of the Goat excites the Snake, who lives in eternal fear of falling into lethargy.

Just like in the marriage between Tiger and Goat, one of the signs is closed, and the other is almost closed, so they will try to disguise the vector relationship, twist it in the abyss of soul-searching and introspection.

Unlike the Tiger-Goat union, in the Snake-Goat marriage almost everything is common. Absolutely the same type of temperament (both either rejoice beyond measure, or fall into prostration), the same psychological (everyday) characteristics. Only the signs of fate differ - one is a pioneer, the other is a implementer. However, this difference does not separate the signs, but additionally brings them closer together. In a word, in this marriage, like in no other, there is every opportunity for maximum fusion. Whether this is good or bad, each person must decide for himself.

If the master's sign is represented by the husband (Goat), then an anomalous situation is created when a capricious and eccentric man reigns supreme over a very strong-willed, wise and passionate woman.

If the mistress is a wife, then there is a variant of marriage in which a strong-willed and mystical wife controls an outwardly active, but internally exhausted husband. Here all hope lies in her prudence and reluctance to abuse the powers she has received.

Snake - Monkey

All the wealth of the monkey's imagination is nothing compared to the brilliance and sharpness of the snake's thought.

The third marriage in a row is closed, but this time both signs are truly closed, which means that vector passions have a chance to reach the very depths of the personality and bring a person to the extremes of decline. By temperament, both spouses are pessimists, although they can fight their pessimism by maintaining an active life. It will be especially difficult for the Monkey, as an independent sign, to admit the inevitability of vector manifestations. But for the same Monkey, as an active nature, it is easier to come to terms with the need to actively serve the Snake.

If the owner is the husband, then the marriage is more emotional, combative, explosive, but if the owner is the wife, then both spouses, having a strong will, will try to transfer their vector fire to a state of smoldering.

Monkey - Rat

The Rat is a sign of love, and it seems to know everything about love. However, this knowledge will seem simple and primitive if a Monkey appears nearby.

As signs of love and mysticism, spouses will find it easier to understand the extravagant turbulence that happens to them, and perhaps they will even learn to control these powerful hurricane currents. Otherwise the signs are quite different. The fatalism of the Rat and the independence of the Monkey, the earthiness of the Monkey and the masculinity of the Rat... However, the energy of the signs is quite close, because the melancholy of the Monkey gravitates towards the dramatic temperament of the Rat, which, by the way, makes the Monkey the second (after the Rat) sign in world drama.

If the Monkey-husband is in charge, then mysticism in the family is elevated to a cult. If the Monkey wife is in charge, then the husband’s mysticism is in a subordinate position and the realistic approach predominates.

Rat - Horse

The Horse's eternal desire for harmony, achieved through hard work, is put to shame by the innate harmony of the Rat.

This time the couple was made up of two open signs, and therefore it is important to give the opportunity for family whirlwinds to come out and show themselves to the whole world. It is difficult to say how such a demonstration will end.

For the rest, it must be said that, being opposition signs, the Rat and the Horse oppose each other in everything, but at the same time they complement each other in everything. Fatalism and independence, sensitivity and maturity, natural optimism and dramatic temperament are complementary.

If a capricious wife rules, then a strong-willed husband, in an effort to please her, may neglect his will too much and lose his personal dignity. You will have to sacrifice something: pride or happiness.

If a mystical-loving husband rules, then the chances of stability of the vector vortex are greater, as long as the Horse wife learns to control her temperament.

Horse - Boar

Omnivorous, ready to swim in any direction, the Pig turns out to be fascinated by the horse’s determination and ability to see the Path.

Two signs with a limitless supply of energy could live a fun and relaxed life. And indeed, in this case there is so much strength that one could endure the negative pressure of circumstances for a long time. On the other hand, the energetic power of the signs can play a bad role, tightening the knot of relationships too tightly. Well, in this case, there is a horoscope that warns that a vector marriage is dangerous for your health, no matter how strong it is.

Otherwise, there are not many similarities between the signs. The Pig is not a fan of finishing things, which irritates the Horse. The Horse is a sensitive nature, but superficial; the Boar, on the contrary, is deep, but rude.

If the husband dominates, then the marriage of two dictators will certainly give rise to the destruction of the will of one and a too arbitrary interpretation of the will of the other.

If the wife dominates, then there is a struggle not of will, but of temperament. Of course, in this struggle, the horse’s temperament suppresses the boar’s attempts to comply.

Boar - Dragon

The too respectable Dragon in the presence of the Pig turns out to be a soap bubble, since the Pig does not recognize inflated authorities.

Signs that differ in everything, there is not a single structure that would give them a clue for kinship. However, the specificity of the marriage horoscope is such that these signs, if it were not for the vector ring, would have formed an equal marriage.

Moreover, if the owner is the husband, there would be a marriage of equal realistic views, in another case (the owner is the wife) there is a chance of equal mystical insights. In any case, mystics in a vector marriage always have an advantage, because at least they know what they are actually faced with. Maybe that’s why mystics so rarely fly into the territory of vector marriage.

Dragon - Cat

The Olympic calmness of the Cat is just a picture, behind which lies a naughty and mischievous person, but the Dragon is a respectable person in all respects. There is something to envy. So, two respectable, promising people. Both love to dream and contemplate, but otherwise their approaches to life are not very similar. However, energetically the signs are similar. Well, the main thing, as in the Pig-Dragon marriage, is equality of types of thinking. If the owner is a husband, then this is equality in a mystical (close to vector) territory; if the owner is a wife, then we have equality of a realistic approach to life. But all this is just for the beginning, in the future the conditions will be dictated by the vector, and according to its laws, the master and servant are equal only in their madness.

Cat - Rooster

The Rooster is brave and beautiful, strong and calculating. But any dignity he has before the Cat fades away. The cat is both braver and more beautiful, and his calculations are much more realistic than the abstruse schemes of a rooster.

Marriage copies the relationship between the Rat and the Horse in everything. Again two open oppositional complementary signs. Ideal influence, ideal harmony, but still the same vector misadventures.

If the husband is a cat, then the powerful will of the wife will have to solve very complex problems, but her love will find an ideal object. If the wife is in charge, then the fighting husband will have to become quiet and meek in the clutches of the experienced ruler of the male world.

Rooster - Dog

The dog considers himself a cold and rational thinker, but he likes to get excited. But the Rooster really has a cosmic, frozen mind.

Again a series of pseudo-equal marriages. However, in this pair the signs are closer than ever. In the everyday (psychological) structure, both manifest themselves in the same way. The Rooster's temperament is close to canine melancholy. Only the signs of fate are somewhat different.

If the Rooster is the husband, then the spouses will try to solve vector problems on a mental level, which is ineffective. If the Rooster is a wife, then two wills, two characters collide, with all the ensuing consequences.

Dog - Bull

The merciless, stern superman Bull faces complete indifference to his heroism, and all because the Dog never bows to brute force.

Both signs are orthodox, which means that the spouses are stubborn, stubborn, dogmatic and conservative. Additional similarity between the signs is given by the closeness of the Dog to the fighting signs, and the Ox to the strong-willed ones. Energetically, psychologically and destiny-wise the signs are different.

If the Dog is a husband, then we have a marriage of strong-willed signs; if the Dog is a wife, then we have fighting signs. However, as already said, in this case the difference between the combat and strong-willed signs is insignificant.

Bull - Tiger

The Tiger is by far the most powerful sign of influence, and its power is designed for those who are afraid in advance. Tiger charms do not work on the Bull, which, in turn, hypnotizes the Tiger.

The Ox is orthodox, the Tiger is close to orthodoxy. This is the similarity of the signs. Otherwise there are more differences. The Ox is rude, straightforward, but invariably successful, the Tiger is more complex, deep, but invariably devoted to his fate.

In the case of the Ox wife, the strong-willed and ruthless wife will tame the indomitable will of her husband. In the case of the Ox-husband, two logics, two combat principles, enter into the struggle.

Grigory Kvasha

“Science and Religion” No. 3, 2000.

Vector marriages.

If anyone doesn’t know or has forgotten, I highly advise you to know and remember: there is such a phenomenon in the structural horoscope - a vector ring in which pairs of signs swirl - one of them is the master, the other is the servant. Here it is: Horse => Boar => Dragon => Cat => Rooster => Dog => Bull => Tiger => Goat => Snake => Monkey => Rat => Horse... To the left of each sign is the owner, on the right is the servant.

Usually, people’s relationships have a pendulum nature: having reached the limit, hitting a dead end, they will definitely swing in the other direction. Therefore, in ordinary couples, first one partner and then the other can take turns gaining the upper hand. It’s not at all the same in a vector pair: there are no oscillations here, the energy goes only in one direction - from the servant to the master, who always reigns supreme.

This scary ring is a vector one. Between the master and the servant, unpredictable and indescribable relationships arise (being aware of this, I have nevertheless been describing this structure of the horoscope for many years now), beneficial and destructive at the same time. In all vector interactions, a powerful reaction occurs, all processes go faster and more intense, energy is released that heats up everything around, and a vortex arises that twists, bends space, and can drive you crazy. There is no logic in vector relationships, the mind has no power over them, they develop against the will of a person, unconsciously.

Now imagine that a vector couple (master sign and servant sign) enter into a marital union or enter into a love relationship. When meeting with such a couple, discerning people sense that the love here is not really love and that the matter is generally unclean... The writer Nina Berberova (Bull) talks about her relationship with her husband, Vladislav Khodasevich (Dog): “The ordinary standards of a “husband” and “wives”, “brothers” and “sisters” would not apply to us. My happiness was not quite of the quality that is usually defined in words: joy, light, bliss, well-being, pleasure, peace. It consisted in something else: in the fact that I felt life more strongly next to him... burning with life in its contrasts... the “intensity” of the charge was sometimes such that any miracle seemed possible.”

The vector twists the master and servant into one cocoon, they are perceived as one whole. They actually cease to exist as independent units. It was said about Alexey Tolstoy and Natalia Krandievskaya (one of the famous vector couples, he is a Horse, she is a Rat) that they have a common blood circulation. Is it good? Indeed, in such a union, a person loses his protective shell and even loses his own personality traits encoded in his annual sign. There are no clear answers to the questions that arise about the vector ring. There is only one method of understanding this strange structure: to describe cases of vector interactions again and again. Only descriptions of combinations, the testimonies of the heroes themselves can give a sense of what it is like - a vector pair... And let us not judge the master in advance and feel sorry for the servant. Both pay and both receive rewards. Let God judge!

At one time, the romance between Georges Sand (Rat) and Alfred de Musset (Horse) shook up the whole of France - so much energy was released from their relationship! Dozens of books and articles are devoted to their love story. Famous people argued about who was to blame for the transience of their violent passion - he or she. And they themselves could not understand their feelings, because this is simply not given to the heroes of any vector pair. George Sand wrote to Musset: “Farewell, farewell, I don’t want to leave you and I don’t want to take you again. I don’t want anything, nothing... I don’t love you more - and I adore you forever. I don't want you anymore, but I can't do without you. It seems that only one heavenly lightning could heal me by destroying me. Goodbye, stay, leave, but don’t say that I’m not suffering. This alone can make me suffer even more, my love, my life, my heart, my brother, my blood, go away, but kill me by leaving.”

One would like to doubt the complete sincerity of what is written - she is a writer after all - suddenly all this is her fantasy, all this heavenly lightning, all this blood and love at the same time as dislike. But I, as a person who has talked many times with people who have been in a vector “remake,” testify: this is surprisingly accurate - she is a writer after all! - a description of the horror and simultaneous bliss of the situation. Musset, by the way, said a very short, quiet phrase, but in magical power it surpasses the tirade of George Sand: “There was a moment in your arms, the memory of which still bothers me, and will continue to prevent me from approaching another woman for a long time.” There is a greater mystery here than even the mystery of love...

Of course, in love, vector relationships do not reach their apotheosis in one day. It is empirically clear that the degree of impact is proportional to the time of communication. Unbeknownst to themselves, people fall into a trap, they merge, become one, leave their shells, so parting seems impossible to them. But you must admit that living without a sign, without your own “I”, which is rapidly melting away in a vector marriage, is not an easy task, and for a long time almost impossible.

I responsibly say that vector ring relationships are not recommended for family life. Such a family lives on a powder keg. An explosion will definitely happen. When - no one knows. The breakup between Musset and George Sand shocked everyone also because they seemed like a painfully ideal couple. The vector ring always creates these. They are perceived as a single being.

The couple Sergei Yesenin (Goat) and Isadora Duncan (Tiger) looked the same. “They are smeared with the same world, similar to each other, tailored to the same image, both are talented beyond measure, both are emotional, unrestrained, reckless...” one of their friends wrote about them.

Volumes have been written about their relationship, everyone sees something different, but everyone recognizes the anomaly here, explaining what happened to them by the uniqueness of the spouses themselves. This reason cannot be denied either. In the whirlwind of vector adventures, there is neither cause nor effect: either they behave this way because they are in a vector marriage, or they ended up in a vector marriage because they wanted to behave this way. Yesenin threatening to jump out of the window; Duncan, in her dance, falling to her knees in front of Yesenin; scandals, jealousy, mutual reproaches, sudden separations and stormy meetings, and again scandals, scandals.

It seemed to many that this was already madness. How many times Yesenin beat and destroyed everything around her, but Duncan could have done the same (fortunately, the means allowed). Isadora alternately hides from Yesenin and then begins to look for him. She admits to her friend Roberts that if she does not find her husband who has disappeared again, she will die or go crazy. All these discords and reconciliations with mountains of broken porcelain and crystal and mangled expensive furniture would have been funny if not for the reality of the tragedy that everyone around them felt.

And here is the opinion of another friend who observed another pogrom perpetrated by Yesenin: “Isadora enjoyed this wild spectacle, what came over the gentle, shy Isadora?.. His attacks had the same pacifying effect on her as a crazy race in a car or a flight in an airplane.” . Soon she herself is enthusiastically throwing plates against the walls.

There is no way for vector spouses to find a place for themselves on this cozy ball, as if they are no longer people, as if the earth itself no longer holds them. They take turns running away from each other, crossing the ocean back and forth. In M. Desty's memoirs, Yesenin and Duncan appear as two lost souls. Irina Odoev-tseva describes the atmosphere in the couple’s home more figuratively: “Is it fun? No, it's not fun here. It’s not only not fun, but somehow surprisingly uncomfortable. And although the room is warm, it seems that there is a draft coming from the windows hung with pink velvet curtains. There is something unsatisfactory in the air, and even the crystal chandelier glows somehow hysterically bright among the smoke of cigarettes.” Surprisingly, these quiet words are no less striking than the description of the famous scandals of famous spouses.

This romance, this marriage, lasted less than two years. However, during this time there were several novels, plays, and countless memoirs and memoirs. They separated in 1923. Yesenin’s death occurred in 1925 (December 28), and Duncan died on August 17, 1927. The circumstances of the two deaths are surprisingly intertwined. Yesenin committed suicide in the very hotel room where he and Isadora were staying; she was strangled by a scarf, the same scarf that symbolized Yesenin himself in her dances. Mysticism, mysticism in everything... Vector...

And here is another famous vector couple: Anna Akhmatova (Bull) and Nikolai Gumilyov (Dog). This union, as depicted by its participants and witnesses, looks like a fierce duel of freedom-loving passionate natures. Even before marriage she writes:

What can marriage add to the relationship of two fires merging into one fire? They had everything that a vector pair should have, otherwise Akhmatova would not have admitted:

Anyone who has been in a vector union knows how the soul is drunk through a straw, all without a trace.

Passion completely captured Anna. Nikolai Gumilyov wrote that “she still wanted to wage a “love war” - to torment and torment, to arrange scenes of jealousy with stormy explanations and stormy reconciliations...”.

Fatal, vector love ruined this union...

The ring does not spare royalty either. And although Emperor Alexander II (Tiger) was not in a vector marriage, the vector played a fatal role in his fate. He met with Ekaterina Mikhailovna Dolgorukova (Koza). She is young and beautiful, she is not yet 18 years old. He is in the prime of his life, he is 47, he is kind, courteous, after all, he is an emperor... So far there is nothing particularly vectorial. However, simple love did not end here.

“A late passion completely captured Alexander II; it became the main impulse of his life. She suppressed the responsibilities of a husband and father; she exerted influence on major political issues; she subjugated his conscience and everything about him until his death” (from the memoirs of M. Paleolog). Here the vector, as they say, takes on flesh and blood, it is already pushing out other topics from the life of the emperor, just as a cuckoo pushes other chicks out of the nest. Marriage is essentially designed to save strength, love is designed to inspire and inspire... But this is not the case with the vector, it does not give strength, but takes it away, completely disconnecting a person from external life.

Here is the emperor’s confession: “Since I fell in love with you, other women have ceased to exist for me... For a whole year, when you pushed me away, and also during the time that you spent in Italy, I did not want and did not approach any woman.”

“Frequent meetings of lovers filled them with rare happiness. Alexander Nikolaevich managed to create a delightful lover out of an inexperienced girl. She belonged to him entirely. She gave him her soul, mind, imagination, will, feelings...” (M. Paleologue). And again, once again I want to stop the author of the lines. Completeness! I gave my soul, my will... All these are big words! Who verified the fact of soul transfer? What instruments were used to record this transmission? Where are the witnesses? It turns out that there is a witness - a structural horoscope. He testifies: yes, in a vector marriage the soul is given, just as everything is given, without a trace.

The most common vector scenario is when happiness and unhappiness, pleasure and torment, delight and despair go hand in hand and reach their climax. It happens that the exacerbation occurs so rapidly that a breakup is inevitable, but the scars of the former merger remain for life.

Here is the story of a vector pair of ice dancers, favorite figure skaters. Maya Usova (Dragon), Alexander Zhulin (Cat). A third element was added to the pair - Oksana Grischuk (Boar), resulting in the formation of a completely wild vector triangle, which cost a lot of strength and health to all its sides.

How many times have they lived through love and betrayal, meeting and separation in dance, and how many times in life? It is known that Maya went through fifteen depressions, two of which were severe.

This “ice” story ended, if not idyllic, then quite encouragingly. A castling took place, an exchange of partners, or partners, as you wish, resulting in the formation of the pair Platov-Usova (Goat-Dragon) and Zhulin-Grischuk (Cat-Boar). U. Maya Usova and Alexander Zhulin began a fundamentally new life, since their vector alliance disintegrated, their vector nightmare ended. I think that in the end it was Zhulin who was most fortunate, who was a servant in alliance with Usova, and is now free. But, as we see from Usova’s example, the vector ring, not sparing the servants, cripples the owners even more, breaking their psyche. For the structural horoscope and its creator (me, therefore), the most important thing so far is the usual demonstration of the anomaly of a vector marriage.

Finally, the example is not tragic, although, how can I say... Maria Mironova (Dog) and Alexander Menaker (Bull). From the memoirs of Maria Vladimirovna: “Alexander Semenovich Menaker, when we met, was already a famous artist, and I was a nobody. And if it weren't for him. maybe they would never have recognized me. After all, he buried himself for my sake, deliberately faded into the background on the stage (emphasis mine. - Author). Everyone thought that I was first and in charge, but everything rested on him - the repertoire, the direction, and the complexities of our existence. He always took the fire upon himself, and there was a lot of fire.” We have before us a rare case when the owner objectively evaluates the vector sacrifice of the servant. It remains to be noted that Mironova lived 86 years, and Menaker 69 years, although the age difference between them is only three years.

How, after all, should people behave who happen to find themselves in a vector marriage, about which so many frightening things are told here, right up to the loss of their “protective shell”? Run? But there is love, a joint household, and often children. What to do to save the family? First of all, don't panic. Take a closer look at your life, compare it with other cases of vector marriages, try to assess the power of this phenomenon over you. Understand yourself: do you like what is happening to you or not? Remember that it is always easier to go with the wind than against the wind, especially if it is not a wind, but a hurricane. It is important to know that the master is always right, right in his own eyes, in the eyes of others and even in the eyes of the servant, so the servant should abandon all thoughts of justice. There is no need to download rights, try to change fate and win dominance. It’s better to freeze - a step to the left, a step to the right... - and you fly into the abyss. There will be a desire and opportunity to see each other less often, do not resist this, get a break. If the relationship becomes tense and unbearable, do not hope that it will pass and that it will improve: the vector ring does not spin back.

The master in a marriage must feel sorry for the servant, understanding that he is not to blame for his mistakes, the reason for everything is the vector law. After parting with the owner (if you succeeded, which is desirable in most cases), never try to take revenge on him, much less return.

The option of a “temporary” divorce is often encountered: some relief before a new reunion. This option is no good at all - if you’ve already managed to escape, then you have to scurry away without looking back, there may not be a second chance. If you are unable to leave a vector marriage, then take comfort in the fact that life is your temporary state; the fact that other marriages are not much better; the fact that other marriages compared to vector ones are sheer boredom.

Finally, advice for vector lovers: do not rush to formalize your vector marriage, do not rush to give birth to vector children. Whether Pushkin or Blok will be born to you (and these poets were born into vector families) is not yet known, but the risk of turning your life, the life of your loved ones, the lives of your children into a living hell is too great. Take your time, take yours, swim in the stormy sea of feelings, suffer, be delighted, rise and fall, but do not drag this pandemonium into the sacred institution of marriage. Marriage needs balance; it is designed to save energy, and not waste it endlessly. In the end, out of 144 possible marriages, only 24 are vector, and there are much more normal (equilibrium) marriages - 120.

So, there are almost no recommendations. Unless there are possible types of compensation that a servant can pay to the owner. You can give the owner your youth, you can give your authority and skill, or you can simply buy him off with money. Try to neglect a servant if he is a millionaire or a general secretary, a people's artist or a Nobel laureate!

However, it is worth remembering that everything is ground in a vector meat grinder; neither Nikita Khrushchev, nor Ted Turner, nor James Joyce, nor Ilya Glazunov are immune from humiliation (all of the listed persons have been in vector marriages). Try to see yourself from the outside, and if not be horrified, then at least be surprised. Remember that the strength of the vector impact is directly proportional to the time of contact, therefore, by increasing the frequency of separation, you will weaken the hurricane. If you want to avoid too violent excesses, try to live up to your role, one should be a kind and caring master, the other an executive and devoted servant. However, these tips are similar to recommendations for preventing a volcanic eruption. Sometimes a good surgical quarrel is more useful than half-hearted appeasement therapy. In a word, if you don’t want the “last days of Pompeii”, stay away from volcanoes.

A servant who intends to run away from his master should look as insignificant as possible in his master's eyes. This is not so difficult, because every day the servant's personality melts away. With his insignificance and pitiful behavior, the servant lulls one's vigilance, and when the owner becomes completely insolent, one must suddenly give in. After escaping from the owner, do not communicate with him under any circumstances for some time. When health is restored (we are talking about all types of health: physical, moral and mental), then you can meet him, but maintaining a distance, because the owner, once he has sucked the blood out of you, will always want to fall to the source again, especially if the source has recovered so well.

Advice for those who are completely happy in a vector marriage and consider everything said to be the author’s invention (usually the owner of the couple): live serenely and do not pay attention to anyone, because you have already gone into your own world, and we remain in this, and understand each other We won't be able to have a friend anymore. I urge the rest to continue anti-vector propaganda, the results of which to date have already been enormous, and in the future they will reverse the balance between darkness and light, good and evil.

If you would like to share your own or a vector story you know, I will be glad to know it. After all, you can talk and write about these relationships endlessly, and everyone will endlessly read and listen with interest.

You can not believe in astrology, but many instinctively believe that fate depends on the date of birth. They don’t take them seriously, but they read their horoscope. Horoscope predictions include such a concept as “vector marriage”.

What's the point?

The Eastern calendar has 12 animals, each of which is a symbol of a particular year. Based on the relationship between the attorneys of different signs, a design called “vector ring” was made. It consists of a pair of zodiac signs in a master-servant pattern.

According to the ring system, adjacent signs are a pair. Who is on the left is the “owner”, on the right is the “servant”. The sequence of the ring is: Rat-Horse-Boar-Dragon-Cat-Rooster-Dog-Ox-Tiger-Goat-Snake-Monkey-Rat. The vector marriage representation is based on the zodiac sequence of the vector ring.

What vector marriage table is made up of 12 signs according to the Eastern calendar?

Rat-Horse;
Horse-Boar;
Pig-Dragon;
Dragon-Rabbit;
Rabbit-Rooster;
Rooster-Dog;
Dog-Cow;
Cow-Tiger;
Tiger-Goat;
Goat-Snake;
Snake-Monkey;
Monkey-Rat.

The compiled horoscope for the years of vector marriages does not depend on the person’s character. There is no geometric validity in it, which determines the composition of the pair.

Relationship table

Table of relationships between partners:

Rat-Horse. They have developed intelligence, they are active and goal-oriented. They love communication and entertainment. But no one will give in. The Rat is more practical, the Horse loves to dream. Occasionally, the Horse mistakes its desires for reality and this can push the Rat away from itself;
Horse-Boar. The Horse is a passionate nature, which is difficult to understand by the carefree Pig. She needs to be more meek, on the contrary, disappointment will come. This couple will experience quite a lot of crazy emotions in their marriage. They have everything mixed up: everyday troubles, quarrels, love;
Pig-Dragon. These signs are perfect. They understand each other flawlessly. The judgment of the other half is always taken into account. Relationships develop smoothly;
Dragon-Rabbit. It was not in vain that this couple met their fate. The Rabbit will be under the care of the Dragon. The pragmatism of the Dragon and the moral world of the Rabbit will charmingly complement each other;
Rabbit-Rooster. The basis of this relationship is the likelihood of accepting each other as they are. Preface to a relationship will be difficult. But in order to be together, the two need to look for a way out of the relationship;
Rooster-Dog. These 2 signs have little in common. To create a marriage union, both need to make an effort. Be conscientious in feelings and actions;
Dog-Cow. Both signs are loyal and responsible, which is necessary to build a serious relationship. So that the Bull's stubbornness does not become a relationship problem, the Dog must accept everything as it is;
Cow-Tiger. The Cow takes life seriously, the Tiger is cheerful and energetic. These are two opposites between which there is awareness;
Tiger-Goat. These signs are promised order and harmony in an alliance. The Tiger will be a support in life, and the Goat will accept this with gratitude. True, the first mistakes and miscalculations will not bring much joy;
Goat-Snake. Both signs are passionate. They have mutual understanding, there is no room for quarrels, but they keep grievances within themselves. They have one goal - to achieve a relationship, which can result in a strong family;
Snake-Monkey. The love relationship of these 2 signs does not last long. The union is compatible only from an energetic point of view, but for love it is an obstacle;
Monkey-Rat. The two signs have identical interests. The couple supports each other. The Monkey will make the house comfortable, and the Rat will arrange the household.

What are the relationships between vector partners?

A vector marriage, the one that falls into the ring according to the Eastern horoscope, is unpredictable. For these couples, love appears quickly, at first sight. The subsequent life together is sensitive and chaotic.

A vector union should be perceived as a test. Such relationships can be complete harmony or an explosion of emotions.

Such a marriage cannot be an equal union. The servant obediently gives his energy and obeys. The owner feeds on it and owns it. People who find themselves in such relationships traditionally change their temperament. On the contrary, they evaluate actions and look at life.

The beginning of a loving relationship is peace and harmony. Death occurs when the energy reserve of one of the husbands is exhausted, and the other has an excess. A moment of discord comes, and the husbands feel the need to retire and live separately. But when separated, they understand that they cannot live without each other. They are drawn to be close and the relationship is renewed.

There may be cases when one person, the owner with strong energy, becomes selfish and narcissistic. Then the other half of the married couple, according to weaker astrological data, loses itself as a figure. Such pairs turn into a solid whole. They cannot exist without each other and strive to be together everywhere, holding hands.

Vector marriages according to zodiac signs are not subject to any logic. Relationships in them progress independently from human freedom and control over actions. It is impossible to build the future in them and explain one’s impulses and actions.

There are moments that occur in such married couples:

Vector relationships are sensitive, their communication is similar to discord;
Everyone is equal in front of the ring. Neither intuition nor logic can oppose his theses;
A person’s vulnerabilities destroy relationships;
Contact and mutual understanding are easily established between partners;
Married couples who are in a vector marriage by year have their pros and cons;
Spouses can easily open up to each other, which leads to the reunion of souls;
Only in a union can people experience such powerful and diverse feelings.

Such marriages become sources of discord. Resentment and jealousy emphasize connectedness from each other. Partners often offend each other. Discord can begin on various issues and at any time. A tense moral environment is a cause of stress. Similar marriages make husbands more impressionable.

Sometimes couples who entered into a vector marriage according to their horoscope are not prepared for the difficulties ahead. To be constantly in nervous tension and to feel the approach of discord from time to time becomes primitively unbearable. In this case, it’s better to try to break off the relationship and break up.

People who cannot imagine life without passionate love can live many years in marriage with a loved one. A significant difference in the ages of husbands or if people marry in adulthood can smooth out relationships. But even in this case, you need to try to save the relationship.

If a quarrel is brewing, you need to change the topic of conversation or stop the dialogue. Throwing a tantrum or trying to confirm something is not worth it - this will not lead to the desired result. In order to renew old feelings, it is worth taking a break from each other.

Business partners who accidentally find themselves in a vector ring also find it difficult to come to a coherent solution. The vector “servant” will not have career growth with his vector “owner,” no matter how knowledgeable and executive an expert he may be.

Having gotten rid of the vector “owner”, the “servant” can achieve triumph in different areas. Even where before it seemed unthinkable.

In astrology there is the concept of “vector marriage”. This is the name given to the union of two representatives of certain signs of the Eastern horoscope, which is characterized by unpredictability and is based on a “master-servant” relationship.

Vector ring structure:

Rat – Horse – Boar – Dragon – Cat – Rooster – Dog – Ox – Tiger – Goat – Snake – Monkey – Rat.

Neighbor on the left - this is the owner sign, and the neighbor on the right - this is a sign - a servant.

For example, in alliance with the Boar, the Horse will be the master, and in alliance with the Rat, the servant.

The principles of the existence of the vector ring influence everyone who enters into such relationships, and disbelief in horoscopes is not a defense against them.

Let's highlight a few main points:

vector relationships are characterized by increased emotionality and require serious energy expenditure; the interaction of partners resembles a conflict of natural elements;
everyone is equal in front of a vector ring: neither logic, nor intuition, nor will will help to resist its principles;
vector relationships easily destroy a person’s own protective field or find his vulnerabilities;
the advantages of vector relationships are quickly established contact between partners, a complete feeling of comfort,
the simultaneous possibility of the hottest passion, spiritual understanding, and intellectual harmony.

What should a person do if he suddenly finds out that he is a member of a vector union?
Here are some tips:

don’t panic and try to figure everything out calmly;
try to calmly assess how much your existing relationships influence you;
remember that the “master” is always right in his own eyes, in the eyes of others, and even in the eyes of the “servant”;
The “servant” should abandon all thoughts of justice and equality;
there is no need to try to change fate, and if there is a desire and opportunity to see each other less often, do not resist this - this way both you and your uneasy union will get a break.

Vector marriage: + and -:

people open up to each other as much as possible, this leads to a merger of souls;
in no other union is a person capable of experiencing such strong and varied feelings;
marriage becomes a source of conflict - partners often hurt each other, in such relationships jealousy and resentment manifest themselves more strongly than in any other, each participant in such a union feels dependent on the other;
At any moment and for any reason, a conflict can begin, the situation is very mentally exhausting, and constant stress undermines health.

From life experience we know that the most powerful emotions in married life fall precisely on those who are in a vector union. When the euphoria of the beginning of the novel ends, and the relationship takes a more stable form, its “consequences” become obvious - it turns out that someone has problems with the nervous system, someone has unbalanced basic body functions, someone has become too aggressive, and someone completely lost interest in what was happening.

This is what often happens in a vector marriage:

the “servant” may degrade, and the “master” may lose his conscience;
the “servant” can become hysterical, eccentric, and the “master” is forced to follow him like a nanny;
the outcome of the development of such relations cannot be predicted, just as not a moment of calm can be guaranteed;
participants in such a union do not notice their personal transformations, cannot be apart for a long time, and as soon as they get together, they begin to quarrel;
spouses grow together in all areas of life, like Siamese twins, lose interest in the world around them, plunging into the abyss of their experiences.

A person who has fallen into a vector trap must decide for himself what is more important to him - the preservation of his own personality or the pleasure that can be obtained in such a union. The immediate environment of each partner can play an important role - from the outside, as a rule, it is clearer that something wrong is going on with a person.

A very serious topic – children in a vector marriage:

“vector” children are uncontrollable, just like vector marriages themselves;
children copy “vector chaos” even when outwardly everything is fine in the family;
a child in a vector marriage requires tenfold attention, a special approach, he should not be a hostage to the situation.

Vector marriages, depriving spouses of a protective field, make them more impressionable and sharpen their perception. Such qualities contribute to success in some professions and creative activities. Children of vector marriages are also susceptible to this influence - they can be both unbalanced and brilliant.
Is it worth running away from such a union as fast as you can, or can you still try to start a family and save your nerves? Despite the passionate love, the relationship in such couples can hardly be called cloudless.

If you decide on such a relationship, then:

do not rush to formalize your marriage and give birth to “vector” children until you are sure that you are capable of such a relationship;
the “master” must (simply must!) feel sorry for the “servant”, whose personality is gradually losing its individuality;
The “servant” should remember the material and psychological conclusions that he draws from this marriage;
sometimes you can resort to the option of a “temporary divorce”, which will ease the situation before a new reunion;
the more often the separations, the weaker the hurricane raging in your family;
The “servant,” having decided to break up, should look as insignificant as possible in the eyes of the “master” - in this case, you can get out of the situation with the least losses;
Having parted with the “master”, do not try to take revenge, much less return to him - distance yourself as far as possible, it is better not to communicate at all until the emotional wounds heal.

Did you find out that you live in a vector union? Imagine that in 10 or 20 years your life will not be stable, and your partner will still irritate you, and sometimes even offend you. If you understand that you are not ready for the fact that the relationship will periodically become unbearable, nervous tension will reach its peak, and you will feel that you are slowly fading away, then it is better to run away.

Life confirms that a servant who has escaped from the influence of his master immediately begins to achieve success in areas that were previously inaccessible to him.

If, despite the unevenness of your relationship, you are able to receive satisfaction from it, then take everything for granted, do not complain about fate and do not try to change it. Forget about fairness and stop proving anything to your partner. It must be said directly that passion and love help hide neurotic attachment, which will only bring oppressive jealousy, fear of loss, fear of being alone and self-doubt into sunny relationships.

If the spouses have a large age difference, or the marriage was concluded already in adulthood, then you can hope for luck, but even in this case, tolerant relationships must be properly built. If you want to give such a marriage a chance to exist, never oppose yourself to your partner, do not draw attention to the differences that exist between you. Stop the dialogue if there is a danger of a quarrel, take a break from each other. By demonstratively defending your position, you only aggravate the conflict.

And yet, is it possible to live in a vector relationship all your life? Yes, you can. But only if you are not ready for marriage as a fairly calm and balanced union, created for raising children, joint housekeeping, mutual support, and cannot imagine life without inspiring love and passionate marital relations with the closest person in the world.